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Balley77 last won the day on 10 November 2018

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  1. Hi alison So sorry for your loss, and so recent. I lost my mum in very similar circumstances, in December 2013. She died of Sepsis and that wasn’t on the death certificate. They also didn’t perform a post-mortem, which, for someone who had been in perfect health until she had flu like symptoms days earlier, is really strange. We didn’t follow it up. We were in such shock. There are probably thousands of others that are also missed off the statistics. Please get in touch if you need anything or just want to chat. Regards Sarah
  2. Lala So sorry to hear your sad news. You've probably read my previous posts, and seen that I lost my mum just over 3 years ago. I know exactly what you're going through. Other illnesses (like Cancer) are equally as horrific to witness, but at least in those circumstances, you can prepare, and have a chance to say goodbye. The next few months will probably go by in a blur. I hope you have some support, and are not alone? Feel free to email me, if you need to, as I wish I'd had someone when I was in your position. Sarah@valcot.com Take each day as it comes. One day at a time xx
  3. Hi Tricia Sorry for delay, hadn't realised you'd replied! A dog sounds an excellent idea! I tried a few things, to force myself out of the house. My husband tried to persuade me to take up a hobby. I found Saturday's the worst, as I'd often meet my mum for shopping. I had a go at a pottery class, which was nice but not very exciting. Eventually took up target pistol shooting, and the regular contact and friendships made there have been great. I love it and it is actually something I am good at. Sorry you don't live any closer, but if you want to keep in touch by email, please do. My address is: Sarah@valcot.com Take care Sarah
  4. Hi Tricia I am so sorry for your loss. I lost my mother under very similar circumstances - she had the flu for a few days, which got worse, and within 6 hours of being admitted to hospital she was on life support. Such a sudden death in people who are generally healthy, and have their whole life ahead of them, doesn't make sense to me, and never will. It is good that you are getting some counselling (with hindsight, I wish I had done that). UK Sepsis Trust do have some support groups, where can meet others going through a similar situation. It is so hard.... It is all consuming. I am glad you have family and friends around you, to keep an eye on you. Where are you based? I am in South Wales, so if you're nearby and would like to meet for a coffee, that would be lovely. I threw myself into fundraising for the UKST, and held a few events in the first year, raising around £12,000. This helped me cope a little better, as I had another focus. I went back to work far too quickly, and should really have taken more time off to grieve. Sarah x
  5. Hi Ella Sorry for your loss. Your poor mum sounds like she'd gone through so much. You don't say if you have any support from family or friends, and I hope you've got someone to lean on at this hard time. With hindsight I went back to work far too soon, and almost three years down the line I wish I'd grieved properly and had some time to readjust. Not sure if you are local to me, but if you fancy a coffee and/or chat, just PM me your email address. Sarah
  6. Hi Jenna I am so sorry for your loss. I know exactly how you feel, having lost my mum in very similar circumstances in December 2013. I have lots of unanswered questions running through my head. It is always the first thing I think about when I wake every morning, and whilst trying to get off to sleep at night. Being a nurse doesn't make you immune. Sepsis is a hidden killer and often it's too late. My mum was 62, and with exciting times ahead of her. Life is so cruel isn't it. Not sure which part of the country you live in, but if you fancy a coffee anytime, please get in touch. Sarah
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    Hi Josie Sepsis is horrific, and it is frightening that's the public are so unaware how quickly it takes hold, and the devastating consequences. I hope your friends and family are there for you, and that you are getting support? Don't forget to take care of yourself, and don't neglect your needs too. Sarah
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    Hi 'newbie' I am so sorry for your loss. I lost my mother to Sepsis just over 2 years ago. She had flu like symptoms, and ended up on life support. Horrific. Awareness is everything. Please email me if you'd like to chat. Regards Sarah (Sarah@sarah-johnson.co.uk)
  9. Hi all Sorry for the delay in responding, but I normally get notified of updates and didn't. I lost my Mum nearly two and a half years ago now. Hard to know what to say. Sepsis is awful and the more we can do to educate the public and the professionals, the best chance of survival we are giving others. It is the only real thing that forces me to focus. Take care and if you need a chat, feel free to message or email me. Sarah Xx
  10. Hi Liz I am so sorry for your loss. I know from Personal experience how frightening and bewildering it is, when Sepsis strikes so suddenly and without warning. It must have been ten times worse for you, being abroad, alone and where you couldn't freely communicate. I hope you have lots of support at home, and haven't had to do everything on your own? It must have been so hard, and I expect, lots of red tape getting back to the UK? Feel free to keep in touch or PM me if there is anything I can do to help. Sarah
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    Hi Paul I am so sorry for your loss. My circumstances are very similar to yours, albeit my mother who succumbed to Sepsis (her story is on the tributes part of the UKST website under 'Meryam'). It is so hard trying to adjust to life without her, and nobody can understand our situation because unless they have been in your shoes, it is hard to explain the multitude of questions and emotions going around our heads. I threw myself into fundraising for UKST and raising awareness, and that does help keep the mind occupied on other things. With hindsight, I wish I had taken more time off work, to grieve properly, as I kept busy. It was right at the time though. You don't say where you are based, but I hope you have some sort of support network? Feel free to PM me if you want to. Sarah
  12. Personally. I would start working on the Sponsorship side first, as what you get from this will have a big impact on what you do with the other objectives, and gives you an idea of what your limitations are. Set a couple of ideas for events in stone, and start planning teams specifically for each event. With things like Facetime, getting a meeting together shouldn't be expensive or challenging. The plan is a little vague, so work on the 5 points for everything suggested - Who? What? When? Where? Why? How? Regards Sarah
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    Hi Anne Like you, I have lost someone to Sepsis. You are so right about hoping you'll wake up and it'll all be a bad dream. How true that is. Life can be so cruel and I too would like this forum to grow, and be some sort of support to others going through this. Nothing prepares you for the shock loss and devastation losing someone to Sepsis feels like. It is the first thing you think of when waking up, and the last thing at night. Things like this don't happen to families like mine, and it all feels like a really bad dream. Feel free to PM me if you want to. Sarah x
  14. I am so sorry to hear what you went through Terry. It is frightening how quickly Sepsis strikes, and there is such a small window of opportunity to treat it. If that window is missed or overlooked, it has devastating outcomes. Things are obviously still ongoing with you at the moment, and still very raw. I am sure you know that we are all with you on this one, and if there is anything we can do, please just ask or PM. Sarah
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    Thanks Terry. I am trying to put all my energy and concentration into raising awareness of Sepsis. If anything positive can come from this part of my life, then that is a bonus.
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